Anal sex is no longer considered a taboo. However, not everyone knows how to safely engage in anal play. It’s not that hard; you just have to know what to do, as well as what not to do.
While anal sex is not rocket science, there still are a few rules you need to abide by. Once you get them down, it’s time for you to get down.
So, if you’re interested in the do’s and don’ts of anal sex, you should definitely read this article.
Part 1: How to prepare yourself for anal sex
If you’re excited about finally getting down and dirty with your partner, and anal sex is completely new to you, then get a pen and paper. We’re about to establish some ground rules.
Rule #1: Discuss boundaries with your partner
Anal sex is still sex, so it should be enjoyable for both parties. However, you can’t just jump right into it without setting some boundaries. After all, your anus is far more sensitive than your vagina.
For that reason, you need to tell your partner exactly what you want, as well as what you don’t want them to do. For example, you should let them know that no matter how passionate you get, they need to be careful when it comes to anal penetration. So, no hurried movements, and no forceful thrusting. A steady pace does the trick.
Also, remind them to lube up as much as possible. Of course, you will apply plenty of lubricant onto yourself, but it’s equally important for your partner to do so as well.
Rule #2: Take a shower
Once you’re done with the technicalities, it’s time to prepare yourself physically. Take a hot shower, and thoroughly clean your anus. It’s best to insert a finger into that area, and wiggle it around a bit. You can also use a small toy instead of your finger if you prefer.
Rule #3: Anal douching (optional)
Now, if you would like to get really clean, you should consider anal douching. Here’s how it’s done:
What to do
1. Apply a generous amount of lube to your anal area, as well as on the nozzle of the douche.
2. Submerge the douche in some warm water and press it to suck in the water.
3. Now, it’s time to insert the nozzle into your rectum. The nozzle should be approximately 5 cm inside your rectum.
4. Squeeze the douche (slowly) to release the water.
5. Sit on the toilet until all the water and leftover fecal matter exits your body.
6. Repeat the process 2-3 times, or until the water coming out of your rectum becomes completely clear.
What not to do:
1. Be careful not to use too much water at once.
2. Don’t add any soap or shower gel to your douche.
3. Don’t forget to reapply plenty of lube to the nozzle whenever necessary.
4. Be careful to insert the nozzle gently.
Part 2: How to start having anal sex
Now for the fun part!
Once you’re clean, it’s time to get down to business! Start by engaging in some foreplay with your partner. Remember to take as long as you need. There’s no reason to rush into anything.
Give each other massages
A massage is a great way to loosen up. Start by giving your partner a gentle massage, and then ask for one too. Since your partner will be the one penetrating YOU, it’s a good idea for them to massage your whole body, including the anal area. Apply some lube to that area, and let your partner start massaging.
Insert a finger
Now, if you’ve loosened up enough, ask your partner to insert a pinkie finger into your anus. After a while, you can move on to inserting a small toy into your anus. Doing this will prepare your muscles for the real thing, once you’re ready.
Once you’ve loosened up as much as possible, it’s time for real penetration.
Now that you’ve prepared your body for anal sex, you can actually start having sex! At this point, it’s completely up to you and your partner, and what you would like to do. Let your imagination run wild, but don’t forget about the aforementioned rules.
Lube up, and get ready for the thrill of your life!